They have been an enigma , their stories speak of undying love for one another..Giving us the notion that " Love lingers on forever".. Such is the charisma of "Star-crossed lovers" in a human society.
Writers across the world have given them this identity in fairy tale romances.
Let's face it, had they lived together and put their love to test in this living world , they too would end up with the same problems as any of us.
Their story lived because "Romance" as a concept has been glamourized in our minds. Let's trace it back to all the fairy tale narratives which always end as ".. And they lived happily ever after.."
But when attraction and loving relationships face reality, then we see, how people grow out of relationships, compatibility is lost, circumstances and sometimes family-ties cause separation.. We have such star-crossed lovers walking amongst us everyday. Which is why fairy tale romances and a "romeo-juliet" or a "devdas" never fascinated me. They are no heroes to me...Maybe as a literary content, I could appreciate the work of the authors , but I find it hard to relate to..
When looking for ethereal magic in your Love story, do keep in mind , factors like compatibility, like-mindedness,clarity of roles in each others lives, trust and dependability. Contrary to the belief, a practical decision in choosing your partner can also give you a lifetime of togetherness and has it's own magical moments. Thus, dont always Just "follow your heart" blindly..cause sometimes its just mind over matter :-)
3 comments:
I would slightly differ.. first is instinct. You have to listen to your instincts for your lover. If you judge too much (or think with your mind), you will never be able to love. Second is lot of hardwork (mind over everything) that is required to maintain the 'happily ever after' fairy tale.
WELL,
where do I begin, to tell the story of how great a love can be :)
I would differ in many ways.
First, romance is different from love. You can have love and still lose the 'romance' in it. It's more common than not actually.
Secondly, Devdas, Romeo Juliet etc are fools who chose to either die or give their loved one away. They aren't heroes but examples of 'WTF'
A practical decision in choosing your partner can give you a lifetime of togetherness but the trick is not look for a lifetime of togetherness but to look for a lifetime of happiness.
I am not saying practicality can't give you that, it can as much as 'impractical' love can, and in my opinion the odds of either are about the same.
And I also think that when most people think that the 'magic' takes a lot of work - it shouldn't. If it does, something is wrong.
Dubey:
Not sure, arent we speaking d same language. ?
Dats precisely wot i said, even practical decisions in choosing a partner may give u a lifetime of ahem..happiness i agree :-)
for me togethernes means happiness.. but i'll take that one from u ..
N ur right about the romantic heroes being examples of WTF.. and like I said, I dont consider them as glorified as they r !
As for romance and Love, I agree d former fizzes out. Which is Y I wrote this blog , cause most ppl looking for this romance with frills attached lose the purpose of a true relation...well, I rest my case here :-)
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